What is your Sexual Orientation?

[Corey]

I'm curious to see the demographics of this, so there's also a poll! A very simple question; what is your sexuality? This is not a thread to post inappropriate pictures or things, by the way! I know from my numerous years on PE2K/PXR that we have a very diverse group of members, and it's actually quite fascinating! I've become close friends with a lot of the members here, so I also know we have quite the variety when it comes to sexuality!

To further elaborate on the question, human sexuality is rather complex. There are many types of identities that people associate themselves with, and there is no way I can cover all of those here. I'll be providing the general options, from both binary and non-binary categories; heterosexual (straight), bisexual, homosexual (lesbian/gay) asexual (none), gray/demi-sexual, pansexual (all)/polysexual (many), questioning (unsure), or no label. As I said, there is no way to cover every single identity, so I've covered what I can in the broad sense!

As I mentioned earlier, there is a poll. I have set the poll NOT to show who chose what, so have no fear if you're worried that people will see. c: Feel free to explain your sexuality, but you by no means are required to if you feel uncomfortable! PXR is an open, hate-free environment. As the rules state, any flaming/trolling/etc will not be tolerated, so you should feel safe here. Still, it's your choice if you choose to explain.

As an ice breaker, I'll go first! In a broad sense, I'm simply a gay/homosexual male. Specifically, I'm what you'd call homoflexible, meaning I'm not entirely closed to the idea of the opposite sex romantically, but a relationship would be incidental. I "came out" earlier this year (around Spring in America) after questioning my sexuality for a couple of years. I never really came out, I just started casually mentioning that I was gay if someone asked or if the topic came up. People were, to my general surprise, more comfortable with it than I imagined. I still reserve myself around some, if I feel they'd give me a rough time. Ah well. :P

[VeloJello]

I'm about 90% sure that I'm asexual; if I'm not, then I'm demisexual. I've never had a close enough romantic connection with anyone to really gauge my feelings on the matter properly, but I have never experienced sexual attraction of any kind toward anyone, and given that I often feel uncomfortable about things pertaining to sex, I have serious doubts that that will change any time soon.

That said, I am decidedly not aromatic (which, Corey, maybe that should be an option in the poll...?). To be precise, I'm heteroromantic (being female, I'm romantically attracted to males), and I form romantic attraction pretty easily, although as I said I haven't ever had much of a strong romantic connection before. Due to a combination of circumstances (my own weird mental wiring + never really knowing any guys who I thought attractive in any way), though, I never actually had so much as a crush until I was about 15! Even after I formed the crush, though, my attractions were rather strictly limited - all I really wanted, or want now, out of any hypothetical partnership was/is kisses, cuddles, emotional support, and shared interest in nerdy media. I was pretty happy when I stumbled across the concept of asexuality after I joined Tumblr (I think this was about a year ago...?); it made perfect sense to me, and it fit me to a T.

Fortunately, sexual/gender identity has never been much of a struggle for me, although it was really cool to find an identity that fit me so well. I personally actually enjoy being asexual; it's a little irksome to have people telling me that I'll "come around when I find the right guy" or some such, but it's one less complication that I have to worry about. Now it's just a matter of actually finding the right guy - namely, the one who simply wants kisses, cuddles, emotional support, and shared interest in nerdy media, where any further escalation is secondary, and mutually a non-expectation upon the relationship's entry.

So, yeah! Ace pride!

[Dragon Master Mike]

I've actually never heard of gray/demisexual. I had to look up what that was.

Personally, I'm heterosexual, but I have a ton of friends who are either bisexual or homosexual (TBH probably about 50% of my friends), and never judge anyone based on their sexual orientation.

Sometimes though I wish I was Asexual. It really sucks when you start liking friends of the opposite gender when all you want is to be friends with them. You don't want to be anything more than friends, but you can't help how you feel. At least, that's how it is for me.

[Corey]

That said, I am decidedly not aromatic (which, Corey, maybe that should be an option in the poll...?).

I was unsure of putting the romantic orientation on the poll as they aren't sexual, and I was mainly gonna leave it to the person to explain their romantic orientation. O: I do know that some people won't post due to various concerns, though, so I dunno. I can't edit polls anyways. xD /shot

[VeloJello]

Sometimes though I wish I was Asexual. It really sucks when you start liking friends of the opposite gender when all you want is to be friends with them. You don't want to be anything more than friends, but you can't help how you feel. At least, that's how it is for me.

There is a difference between asexuality/aromanticism. "Aromantic" means you don't feel romantic attraction in the same way that "asexual" means you don't feel sexual attraction. Unless that's what you meant. :P Although it is definitely possible to be attracted to any gender regardless of whether you're aromantic or asexual. It's just that since "hetero" is the most common orientation among people, that's what you're likely to see.

I know how you feel, though. I crush literally all the dang time, and I've had more than one crush with someone who I really don't want a relationship with. XD

[Neo Emolga]

Heterosexual. I have seen some attractive girls and I'm sure they're nice, but I'm just too shy...

[Chibi Altaria]

Heterosexual. :D Though I know how it is when you're friends with a guy, and you just wanna be friends and then BAM! Romantic feelings! >n< I don't know many guys as it is, so I really only have a few guy friends. Those I got close to...didn't really work out, and then I lost them. Maybe asexual really wouldn't be such a bad thing in cases like that.

Though I know, out there somewhere (in a galaxy far, far away), is some epic guy just waiting for me to find him. Cx

[Finch]

I only have eyes for myself. I'm one tasty piece of meat

[Chibi Altaria]

I only have eyes for myself. I'm one tasty piece of meat


Unless you look like that turian in your banner, dream on, muppet.

[Finch]

Unless you look like that turian in your banner, dream on, muppet.

Mean but justified I suppose.

[Neo Emolga]

Unless you look like that turian in your banner, dream on, muppet.

It does make you wonder... is Finch a Muppet of a man... or a very manly Muppet?

[Finch]

It does make you wonder... is Finch a Muppet of a man... or a very manly Muppet?

The answer is yes.

[Arystar]

I had to look up graysexual.... turns out that's what I am :tongue:
Been wondering about that.

I work in a very social environment with a lot of people of the opposite gender, but I generally don't engage in physical relationships. Even when I'm dating someone the actual closeness is more important to me than sex. All my friends thought I was homosexual, and I thought I was asexual... now I can tell them I'm just graysexual :)

[Tyler Phoenix]

Eh, I've never been too sure how I'd label myself really. I could have a relationship with another guy, but I don't know whether I'd be able to go from just romantic to sexual, and to me being able to do everything in a comfortable and loving way is something important in a relationship. I also know that I get very attached to the person I'm in a relationship with. I've had one relationship, but it was a three and a half year one that ended in April, and it became such a siginificant part of my life with the investment me and my ex made into it, that when it ended (and still to this day) I find myserf a little lost and unsure of a few things. I guess relationships just have a serious significance in my eyes due to how serious a thing I see love as.

So, I guess I'm more bi-curious than bisexual... but for simplicity's sake, I'd classify myself bisexual.

[PerseusRad]

Hetero. But honestly, my sexuality is one of the least important things about me to myself.

[Corey]

I expected to have more variety. xD Not that the results now are bad! It's really interesting to see the demographics, nonetheless.

[SassySnivy]

I think the thing is that people tend to mix sexual orientation with romantic orientation, since for the majority of people tend to be on only one side of the spectrum. Its not unheard of, for instance, for a male to be sexually attracted to men but is only able to experience tender, romantic feelings towards women.

Im just straight both ways. Of course, I am very open-minded and appreciate sexual and romantic orientations of every kind. Its how our brains are hardwired, and anyone who doesnt see this is dense and in serious denial.

Then again, you could look into it more deeply and you'd fine that infatuation and romantic feelings are different from each other, too. They tend to be grouped together, however...for similar reasons. Like, I guess you could be aromantic and asexual but still become infatuated with certain people or genders, just never becoming interested in pursuing a romantic or sexual relationship with them. I know this is possible in theory, but I wonder if someone around here has gone through such conflicting feelings before.

[Pokemon Trainer Sarah]

What is gray/demisexual? :O I've never heard of it.

I am straight. Nothing really interesting to say about it. xD

[Corey]

Greysexual is where someone is in the "grey" area of asexuality and sexuality, where people are significantly less "sexual" around their partners. I'm not sure how to explain it, since I'm not a greysexual. :( Demisexual is where people can only feel sexual attraction towards someone they've formed a strong emotional bond with!

[Ellithium]

I'm a homosexual male, but I'm a little homo-flexible romantically. So, biromantic, but still with a preference towards guys.

[Chibi Altaria]

Demisexual is where people can only feel sexual attraction towards someone they've formed a strong emotional bond with!


So you can't just look at a guy and be like "wow, he's hot". XD Counts me out, then.

[Corey]

So you can't just look at a guy and be like "wow, he's hot". XD Counts me out, then.

I'm out too. :p

[VeloJello]

So you can't just look at a guy and be like "wow, he's hot". XD Counts me out, then.

I'm asexual and I still find certain people hot. :P

[Chibi Altaria]

Well yeah, but there's 'hot' and then there's 'hot'... Like drooling words-I-can't-say-in-front-of-youngsters hot. Cx

[Commander Shepard]

Can say I'm honestly Heterosexual to the point where I'm comfortable enough to act as Homosexual as I want and still say I find myself sexually attracted to the female mind at the end of the day. While I can say it'd be fun to be gay, not having to worry about women yelling at me for about a week out of each month because her estrogen levels have reached critical and she has no outlet aside from random mood swings and random peaks in aggression. Not to mention most of they "gay" guys I'm accustomed to are the ones that still act "masculine" in a sense. I don't think I've ever seen a feminine homosexual guy before to be honest so to me, a gay guy is just another guy that likes guys. I can go outside and toss the dead pig skin around a 91.44 meters of grassy field with my friend and at the end of the day know he's one of the closest friends I have, hell I consider him my brother.

[VeloJello]

While I can say it'd be fun to be gay, not having to worry about women yelling at me for about a week out of each month because her estrogen levels have reached critical and she has no outlet aside from random mood swings and random peaks in aggression.

Good to see sexism in a thread about gender and sexual-orientation issues, where it so obviously belongs. You know, just really, smashingly good job for your remarkable understanding of the female mind, dude.

[Commander Shepard]

Good to see sexism in a thread about gender and sexual-orientation issues, where it so obviously belongs. You know, just really, smashingly good job for your remarkable understanding of the female mind, dude.

My apologies, I just seems to be the prime target for most people's aggression usually. :/

[Chibi Altaria]

My apologies, I just seems to be the prime target for most people's aggression usually. :/


You do know that most women can't control this, right? Let's see you deal with all the pain and mental swings. AND PREGNANCY. D:

Men get it so easy...

[Nagisa]

You do know that most women can't control this, right? Let's see you deal with all the pain and mental swings. AND PREGNANCY. D:

Men get it so easy...
basically
I've never cried at a comedy film before in my life up until this Monday, but I was really emotional and just cried my way through a David Mitchell and Robert Webb film XD

[Death's Spook]

I'm Demi-hetero (attracted only to girls I've formed bonds with). I suppose I'm technically only "out" on here, but the sheer lack of effect this has on my life makes it difficult to care about it one way or another.

[Suicune's Fire]

Good to see sexism in a thread about gender and sexual-orientation issues, where it so obviously belongs. You know, just really, smashingly good job for your remarkable understanding of the female mind, dude.

I just found it funny. XD Plus, I could say the same about a guy, so whatever. xD I don't know many if any women who act like that anyway so I know it doesn't apply to me or them. x)

I'm a homo/lesbian/gay person, surprise! 8D Currently seeing a girl whom I adore and whose smile gives me warm, fuzzy feelings. x) I'm sort of at the "coming out" stage right now so I don't care if you guys know. xD You're my family. :,) Just have to find a way to tell my hubby... </3 *points to signature* XD


~SF.

[SassySnivy]

Not really sure why everyone jumped down Commander Shepard's throat, either. Its true to an extent, and it was obvious that he was exaggerating slightly to get his point across, which he did....

Also, men do not "get it so easily." Just because they dont have the same physical problems doesnt mean that their problems should be invalidated as "easy." Sorry, but I strongly feel that sexism works both ways. :/

[Nagisa]

Men get it easier. I have never seen a man drugged up on paracetamol or Feminax because they have crippling period cramps before. Happens to me a whole damn lot, even though I'm taking plenty medication to try and counter the cramps. I was in so much pain the other day that paracetamol did nothing for me.

[Death's Spook]

Ok, people, we can debate this all the night long, but I don't think anything's gonna change except increased frustrations. Let's get back on topic before that happens.

[Corey]

Let's just say everyone's life is equally as difficult, because each gender faces its own seperate issues. :P

[Eira]

I can easily say that I'm heterosexual, and I dream that one day I can find a man who will sweep me off of my feet.

[XaiakuX]

My apologies, I just seems to be the prime target for most people's aggression usually. :/


While I can say it'd be fun to be gay, not having to worry about women yelling at me for about a week out of each month because her estrogen levels have reached critical and she has no outlet aside from random mood swings and random peaks in aggression.

If there was ever any question as to WHY you are such a target, I hope this helps you to understand. I know it's hard to bite your tongue, believe me, I'm the worst at it. I am notorious on this forum for being a mouthpiece. But there are lines that even I won't cross because there are some fights I know I won't win. This is one of them. Just lookin' out.

Anyways, I'm Heterosexual. Romantically I'm also heterosexual. I have zero attraction to men.

[Winter]

Not totally sure myself, but starting to think I'm demisexual... And very, very picky, because I tend to think of people I get close to like family, so I've comdemned quite a few of my male friends over the years to the friend zone. XD Also managed to mystify one of my friends at one point by telling her I don't really "check out" people. Like, at all. Anyway, yeah, still questioning everything myself, but I'm currently dating an absolutely wonderful guy...maybe I'll have it totally/almost totally figured out eventually? XD

[DarkNerd]

Asexual but not aromantic. I grew up watching Hamtaro, what were you expecting? Anyways, I found out recently. Never really knew what i was, but it rarely came up (the Nerd's in the name for a reason), other than when my family asked. I had to read up on it because when I thought of asexual, I thought of a robot. I didn't think that itself was bad or broken, but it was finally nice to have an answer.

[[Desolate Divine]]

Heterosexual, plain and simple. Which is sometimes a pain in the *ss, cosidering 111.11% of my insanity is caused by females and my lack of understanding/communication skills xD

[Dragon Master Mike]

Question: Is the word gay supposed to be used for male homosexual, or just for homosexual in general? I've heard it used either way.

Also, I'm starting to wonder if I might be Gray sexual. I mean, even if I end up thinking that I am for sure, I wouldn't actually say that to anyone considering that I would have to explain what it means to literally everyone, but it seems to fit for me.

[Corey]

Question: Is the word gay supposed to be used for male homosexual, or just for homosexual in general? I've heard it used either way.

Also, I'm starting to wonder if I might be Gray sexual. I mean, even if I end up thinking that I am for sure, I wouldn't actually say that to anyone considering that I would have to explain what it means to literally everyone, but it seems to fit for me.

Gay is used in place of homosexual, so it goes for both sexes (though many call female homosexuals lesbians). Gay went from meaning happy to meaning homosexual, because homosexuality was listed as a sociopathic personality disorder in the DSM until '73, and most people didn't want to identify themselves as sociopathic. Thus, the switch of the meaning of gay happened in the late 20s/early 30s. :P /gayhistory

At one point I identified as bisexual, just to avoid having to explain homoflexibility every five minutes, so I understand why you'd avoid the term. :P

[3m0d0ll]

I would consider myself bisexual with an aesthetic preference for females but a sexual preference for males. I think it's easier for a woman to be good looking to me than a male, but I eventually want to have children. As far as which gender I'd prefer to date, it would all depend on the person and if I could picture myself falling in love with them.

My mother is a bit closed-minded when it comes to the idea of me being bisexual. She often says, "How do yo know you're bi if you've never had a relationship with a girl?" "What makes you think you're bi if you've never been sexually intimate with a girl before?" And I respond with, "I look at hot woman and feel sexually attracted towards them the same way I feel sexually attracted towards hot men." I really don't see why it's so confusing, to her or anyone. And I don't understand why so many people either irl or online seem to think it's just a "phase" or since I'm a teenager I'm just experimenting.

I could rant on, but it's pointless; be who you are. If you think guys are cute, be with a guy. If you think girls are cute, be with a girl. Don't let someone apply limitations to you just because they're incapable of understanding that your brain and preferences function differently than theirs.

[Corey]

"How do yo know you're bi if you've never had a relationship with a girl?" "What makes you think you're bi if you've never been sexually intimate with a girl before?"

My cousin pulled this when I told him I was gay this summer. He was like, "Well how do you know you're gay if you've never been with both sexes?" He has a girlfriend and is a virgin. like u idiot

I didn't know how to explain it, but I said something to the tune of, "Well how do you know you're straight? You just know." I should've said what you said to your mom. :'c

[Nagisa]

I'm not interesting. I'm just straight. Sorry I have no fun stories to tell, but I do have a story, though I'm not going to tell it in case you guys kill me for making assumptions.

[Suicune's Fire]

I'm not interesting. I'm just straight. Sorry I have no fun stories to tell, but I do have a story, though I'm not going to tell it in case you guys kill me for making assumptions.

Being straight doesn't make you uninteresting. xD That's silly. And lol, is it offensive?

[Nagisa]

Everyone in here will probably pounce on me for saying it.

[Felly]

Heterosexual for me. I can look at other females and give them compliments but I could never see myself in a relationship with one. I just can't find females attractive in that manner.

[Sir Sivelos]

I reckon I'm asexual at the moment. Yes, I am attracted to people, but I have a feeling that if an opportunity to do something sexual arose... I'd probably shy away from it for whatever reason. Probably my hardcore politeness, who knows.

[Silverclaw]

Normal nothing special.

[SorinJigglypuff]

Straight for myself.

[SassySnivy]

Gay is used in place of homosexual, so it goes for both sexes (though many call female homosexuals lesbians). Gay went from meaning happy to meaning homosexual, because homosexuality was listed as a sociopathic personality disorder in the DSM until '73, and most people didn't want to identify themselves as sociopathic. Thus, the switch of the meaning of gay happened in the late 20s/early 30s. :P /gayhistory

At one point I identified as bisexual, just to avoid having to explain homoflexibility every five minutes, so I understand why you'd avoid the term. :P

That is a really interesting fact, Corey. I seriously did not actually know that! The more you know.

Nagisa: while this is also a really old post I'm responding to, I actually would kinda like to know what the story is more now that you've said people will jump down your throat for it. And I honestly don't think people will, so long as you don't act bigoted about your opinion...which I know you won't. :P I mean, you're a really cool and humble person from what I can tell!

But pretty much any regular PXRian is mature enough to understand and NOT pounce on you. x]

[wilpin7]

Interesting thread. I personally identify as pansexual, someone who can be attracted by every gender, such as transsexuals, hermaphrodites, people who identify as male, but are female, and the other way around. Bisexuality on the other hand means your only attracted to two genders, but I guess it's the closest thing so that's what I used for this poll :P

[Nagisa]

That is a really interesting fact, Corey. I seriously did not actually know that! The more you know.

Nagisa: while this is also a really old post I'm responding to, I actually would kinda like to know what the story is more now that you've said people will jump down your throat for it. And I honestly don't think people will, so long as you don't act bigoted about your opinion...which I know you won't. :P I mean, you're a really cool and humble person from what I can tell!

But pretty much any regular PXRian is mature enough to understand and NOT pounce on you. x]

Speed-X Well, most people who I've told this story to already who don't know my particular friend always pounce on me. One of my friends recently came out as bisexual, and people are getting all down my throat about it because I don't believe her. But all her friends who have known her for years all agree with me that none of us think she actually is, and I have a good reason to not believe her, because a few years ago, I thought I was bisexual, before figuring out I wasn't, and that it was just an ideal. I've always stood up for gay rights really strongly, so basically, I just ended up thinking I was bisexual. And she is even worse than me on the standing up for gay rights, so what I think is that she is going through the dilemma that I did.
(Also she wants a 'gay best friend' so....)

But a lot of people just think I'm being "non-accepting" and "not supportive", but I feel like I know her well. We spend 5 days a week together for about 7 hours a day, so I'd like to think I know her well.

[SassySnivy]

Sometimes people will act gay or bi just for attention. Some people do it out of curiosity. That's a stupid reason for them to jump down your throat just because you simply didn't believe her and nothing more. Sounds like something a typical tumblr social justice warrior would do/say (that you're "not tolerant enough") if you ask me.

Also its kinda a big change when we find out a good friend of ours discovers they've come out of the closet. Its a little shocking at first to find out, but you still love them all the same because they're your friend. Its happened to a lot of friends of mine in the past, and I'm sure it will continue to in the future.

But yeah, also don't feel pressured to be one sexuality or the other because people think you're a ***** for being straight or something. I don't think that happened here, but I was just thinking

[Arrow-Jolteon]

I'm kind of questioning my own sexual orientation. I'm mostly straight as far as I can tell, but part of me feels like I may be asexual...

I need to know myself better in that regard. Almost sure I'm straight, though.

[Winter]

Nagisa

People are stupid, don't worry about it. If you feel like you know your friend well enough and it just doesn't seem like them/know what they're going though, it's dumb of people to tell you that you aren't being supportive. I have a friend who decided rather than go to college, she was going to join the Air Force reserves, and because she's such a goofy person among other things, I couldn't (and still just can't quite) believe it was totally her decision. She got annoyed at me for being confused rather than happy. Hopefully your friend will figure out herself, just like I'm hoping mine will, and people will stop giving you crap for it soon.

[Noblejanobii]

I'm straight personally but I am always there to support people of other orientations. I understand that certain people have different tastes than me and they are entitled to that. Long as they don't force it on me then they can have at it.

[ZrowNoodles]

D: But what if I'm sapiosexual?

[Hikikomori]

I consider myself heterosexual but there have been instances where I've been attracted to guys. I can count those instances on one hand but it still counts. :tongue:

[Noblejanobii]

D: But what if I'm sapiosexual?

*highfives* I like the way you think.

[SassySnivy]

I consider myself heterosexual but there have been instances where I've been attracted to guys. I can count those instances on one hand but it still counts. :tongue:
I completely know what you mean. It's just certain people, though. Like, you just think "what if," or "I'd do him/her" xD I had that happen last night to me.

But for me it seems to only happen with really boyish-looking girls. Ones that are attractive of course, lol :P Not just any will do.

[Corey]

There are definitely some instances where I feel an emotional connection to some women, but I have never felt sexual attraction to women. Sexual orientation is about your sexual preference, while romantic orientation is about who you'd date/form a relationship with. And it goes without saying that everyone is curious about what it'd be like with the same/other sex, though I only seek men both romantically and sexually. :p

Your sexuality isn't always straight, gay, or bi, but there are a whole slew of terms that people identify as. For instance, if you're not content with heterosexual, heteroflexible is another term, meaning that prefer mostly opposite sex, but open to experiences with the same sex. However, what you identify as is your choice and yours alone, (though you really can't help what you're sexually attracted to)! :)

[Homura]

Basically heterosexual myself, but ya I think gay rights is important. There's a reason why homosexuality is off the DSM4, which is 2 editions ago.