Your Sexuality?

[Palamon]

This thread should be simple, and I hope it doesn't go off the rails. Basically, the question is: what is your sexuality? Are you still questioning? And when did you discover this was your sexuality? Also, do you think sexuality is a choice?

[Neo Emolga]

I know I'm definitely heterosexual, but I'm super-shy when it comes to the dating scene. Rejection and feeling embarrassed is something I'm terrified about...

[Sieses]

Asexual. Absolutely no interest in it whatsoever. I have no idea when or how this came about, but I haven't had any real thoughts about it in years, so there it is.

[Vishnal]

I have no idea 8Db

In all seriousness, I'm certain I'm romantically attracted to men. I have found myself crushing on women; however, said women were close to me at some point so it's possible I mistook my connecting with them as attraction. I've never dated or had any sort of romantic experience (outside of roleplaying/playing video games with dating elements, though those don't provide a genuine experience), so I don't think I'll know for certain 'til I have the experience.

[Kurosaki]

I guess I'm bi. Primarily I'm attracted to girls and fall for them more often, but I can crush on guys, too, so. That's kinda that.

[Palamon]

I'm gynosexual.

That means I'm only attracted to girls. I'd totally be all for dating a trans girl, non-binary girl, demigirl, you name it! But boys and whatnot, I'm not interested at all, in any way, and I'd never date one or get together with one, under any circumstance at all. I'd say lesbian, but I'm not a girl, and don't identify as female, and I'm not a boy, either. Gynosexual is just a term for people who are only attracted to girls, regardless of gender, so I use it. I was questioning my sexuality when I was fifteen, but finally figured it out a year after that. And, no, sexuality isn't a choice, at all. It's a point of discovery, and you can't choose it. If I had a choice, I'd not be (since I'm dfab), homosexual because of all the oppression we go through because of it. =/ I hope that I explained my sexuality correctly! If you have questions, ask me, I guess.

[Aloasa]

I actually thought I was straight for a long time... but since hitting puverty I really been crushing on dudes as well, so I would say Bi... .. but then agaian I've felt more girlish recently... yet still boy-ish.... idk... all I know is that I have a wonderful boyfriend in Australia just waiting for me <3

[Kieran]

I'm bi. I've never had a gay experience but I only came out a few days ago. I think I told a few people when I first discovered it though.

Yeah. Gay spam. ~

[Chakramaster]

Well mine comes with a little story. I had always though myself to be heterosexual, only attracted to women throughout middle and high school. After graduating back in 09 and moving to college. Thoughts on the idea came into my mind. I've never had a girlfriend, well technically. Even though one did say she tried to back in high school. Nothing came out of it. Suddenly though a few years of being in college. Strange thoughts, or mixed thoughts came to me. It was kind of a confusing time. What was it? Was it meant to be one way or the other. It lead me down a path I'd rather not go into or remember....but it wasn't until recently I finally came to. After years of looking around, thinking, meditating on the idea, and praying for guidance on it....I ran across a story (fanfic rather) that woke me up and helped me figure out the answer. Ever since I've never felt more happier to have gotten past that roadblock. It's like a big sigh of relief.

Now, today I can safely say that yeah I am a heterosexual male. Only women are attractive to me. I still am as shy as they come when trying to talk to one and I'm not the kind of guy to actively try to hit on them. Not been on a date yet, but it'll happen one day...I'm sure of it.

I gotta say it's hard to say. I'd say it is a choice, but some people just feel differently about that. I'll never know that feeling so I can't naturally say for others. I felt like I had a choice, but I woke up from that block and feel like it's not. That, THIS is the way I am and it's natural for me to like women. So I'm glad I found that story. Random google searches can be useful sometimes lol.

[Noblejanobii]

I'm about as straight as you get. Though, I do have people who have assumed I'm asexual purely because I don't crush or date anyone (because apparently that's necessary in high school). I would say I "discovered" my sexuality when I was eight, which I know people might be suspicious about because that was really early on in life but just hear me out. As many of y'all may or may not know, I have homophobia steaming from childhood trauma. So, it's not my government textbook's definition of homophobia "the hatred of gays." No, I legitimately have homophobia, to a certain extent. Since the cause of the trauma was a lesbian, I tend to only react around people that I know are lesbians and only if they touch me. I know how stupid that sounds and know some of you are judging me hard but literally, when you're attacked by an 18-year old girl when you're eight and she makes lesbian moves towards you, it tends to stick. So, even though I wasn't aware of differing sexualities at the time, by the time I discovered there were more, that trauma prevented me from ever even considering going any other way. I'm also under the belief that you do choose your sexuality, but certain events can change or affirm your sexuality. For example, I was cemented straight after the aforementioned incident. I don't think it's genetic or you're born with it, I think you pick it but it develops into a mindset that is difficult or impossible to change.

[Corey]

I'm a gold star platinum gay. I can't see myself with a woman at all, except maybe once to say I have (and I don't see that going over well LOL). I've never had an issue with my sexuality, other than the fact that the road to realizing it was so difficult. Coming out was easy, and I did it as soon as I realized I was gay. No one was really surprised though. I lived in a "glass closet," so everyone already assumed.

I've done a plethora of research into human sexuality, and the evidence we have now best suggests that homosexuality is of intrauterine and/or genetic origin. Thus, I'm rather certain it's not a choice of any sort.

[Shiny Celebi]

Ok, this is the first time Im admitting it on a forum, but Im ready. So tired of hiding.

Im pansexual with a preference for men. It took me a long time to put a label on myself, but thats the label I chose. Im also fine with identifying as bisexual(which is easier to explain) so I kinda Id as both tbh? I prefer men but am open to someone of any gender, whether is be cis men/women or genderfluid, agender, bigender, nonbinary, etc.

[Pokemon Trainer Sarah]

I'm straight, so I don't really have anything interesting to add. It's nice that everyone feels comfortable sharing though. :)

And no, I don't think it's a choice. I think science backs up that it is at least somewhat genetic, though of course environment also affects our genes, so I'm sure there's some of that involved too.

[Suicune's Fire]

/late to the party

I'm gay, and I think most of you know that by now. I've been with my girlfriend for more than fourteen months now. She's my first relationship and hopefully my last. :]

A bit of a rant below:
It has nothing to do with choice. The only people I've ever heard say that it's a choice are straight people who are religious (SOME straight religious people; most of my friends are straight and some are religious and said people do not have this view, so this is by no means a generalisation or a dig at straight people or religious people--it's just something I've picked up pertaining to those who DO have this view) who have no homosexual attractions. Do you hear a homosexual person say that it's a choice? Ha, no. Doesn't that tell you something? Or are we too "deluded" to be listened to, because we're "unnatural" and therefore don't know as well as those who aren't like us? And hey, if that's what you believe, does that mean that you could choose to be attracted to the same gender? Funny that when someone says it's a choice, they're always straight and they always say "Oh I could CHOOSE to be with someone of my gender, but I'm not." Yes, everyone can choose who to be with. Nobody can choose who they are attracted to. Did you choose to be straight? Hm. No. You chose to be with someone of the opposite gender. You didn't look at them and go, "Sure, I'll feel an uncontrollable attraction to this person because I have a choice!" Are you implying that you could look at someone and choose to feel an inherent attraction if you so desire? Pfft. Please. That's not how attraction works.

Point is, if you think it's a choice, then you have no idea what it's like to be TOLD that you "had a choice" and you're "choosing to be that way." Did you choose to be born into your family? No. Did you choose to be born with or without all your limbs? No. Did you choose your sexuality? For Mew's sake, no. I was born with an innate attraction to females. It's written in my DNA. How do I know? The same way people know what colour their hair naturally is, or how many toes they have. Had I been told as a child that me being attracted to the same gender was okay, rather than a taboo, and the concept of it being a "choice" wasn't forced down my throat, then hmm, maybe I wouldn't have tried (keyword: tried) to reject my feelings so early. Then hmm, maybe everyone would have known that I was gay 10 years before I freaking came out, and this "choice" crap wouldn't be so abundant.

In my eyes, the ONLY reason that people think it's a choice is because they want to tell people like me that it's MY fault for being different, or unnatural. Come off it. If it's my "fault" for being gay, then it's your fault that you were born human.

[Mujaffa]

many-a people thinks im gay.
probably because im. well, i hit on dudes make plenty a nsfw jokes call my male friends "sexy or hot stuff etcetera" and i had pink hair for a while.
but honestly
im straight, well i guess im more of an asexual but im not because im still attracted to girls.
i just dont care a whole lot. and as a result im not very active in the field :p
http://i2.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/facebook/000/028/590/originaljosephd.jpg

[Minatsuki]

I'm pansexually straight, if that makes any sense. I am only romantically interested in men, but I do develop feelings for (fictional) women.

It is strange, but I cannot find myself romantically interested in women. Only fictional ones.

[Steel Lunpara]

many-a people thinks im gay.
probably because im. well, i hit on dudes make plenty a nsfw jokes call my male friends "sexy or hot stuff etcetera" and i had pink hair for a while.
but honestly
im straight, well i guess im more of an asexual but im not because im still attracted to girls.
i just dont care a whole lot. and as a result im not very active in the field :p
http://i2.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/facebook/000/028/590/originaljosephd.jpg

Come on, man, let's face it: gay innuendo is the glue that holds male friendships together.

[Mujaffa]

Come on, man, let's face it: gay innuendo is the glue that holds male friendships together.
this, this is very true. you-you you're a very wise man and you know how it is and you know how it works and you. all round great, great guy!
yes.
thos funny story. i had my hair pink a summer a few years ago. 2013 actually. i think. might have been 2014.
but i kid you not my teacher walks up to me at recess. and says to me: it's nice to see that you are very open about your sexuallity, and it's very brave of you.
and at that point i just, fine. i'll take it. i'll be that!
so i'm officially a very proud gay, straight guy.

[Bulbasaur]

I always thought I was straight, until recently I noticed having feelings for a few guys. Not many, but enough that I wouldn't call myself COMPLETELY straight. However I wouldn't say I'm gay. On the spectrum I fall closer to straight. :P

[Dratini]

I am straight. I'm sure some people would have their doubts, but it's quite true. Let me think of how to elaborate on why some people might doubt that, while keeping this PG...

It's my nutty sense of humor to insist that I dress myself every morning with a well-hung men's jacket from my coat rack. However, the reality is I'm a fairly petite female who would look rather odd wearing a man's jacket. Aside from donning this men's jacket of mine during wordplay, I don't swing towards the men's department at all except to gawk at the type of fashion I'm attracted to -- like any other straight female.

However, I deeply respect others who are open about their sexuality, whether they are certain it is something aside from straight or they possess a more fluid and evolving sexuality.

[Noblejanobii]

Come on, man, let's face it: gay innuendo is the glue that holds male friendships together.

This is like my closest straight guy friend's motto. In his words, "you're not close enough unless you're making gay innuendo jokes with each other."

[[Desolate Divine]]

It isn't too much gay innuendo with my group of friends but more comically deep bromances and referring to things as man-dates for the lols.

[Decagon]

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