The Last Poster Wins [v26]

[Neo Emolga]

Mostly just a rough week at work on top of election hysteria. Kinda just want to leave last week behind and keep things moving along. Just hoping things get better, really.

But yeah, on top of everything else, I feel like I was just outright robbed of a lot of fun things last summer. If 2021 just ends up being a lot like 2020 in terms of lockdowns, cancelations, and such, man, it's going to be even more of a drag.

[Chibi Altaria]

I feel like the last six months of my life have been such a waste. D: Sure, I started a course and studied towards a new career, but I haven't gone out anywhere and still don't have a job. ;__;

[Bulbasaur]

I feel like the last six months of my life have been such a waste. D: Sure, I started a course and studied towards a new career, but I haven't gone out anywhere and still don't have a job. ;__;

I think we're all in a similar boat with the part about not having gone out anywhere. It's hard to get stuff accomplished right now. :(

[Neo Emolga]

Studying courses isn't bad, it'll show to employers that even though you weren't able to secure a job, you at least remained productive in growing your skills in preparation for your next job.

Getting a job can be BRUTAL and hard. Just keep trying and don't give up, things are hard now and no one's really sure what kind of direction the world is headed in. Take one day at a time and don't worry about the future.

[Chibi Altaria]

I like your attitude, but my first response when someone tells me not to worry about the future is "BUT I'M ALMOST THIRTYYYYYYYYY". XD Like I want a job and a partner and a family and it's driving me nuts that I have none of those! Aha.

[Neo Emolga]

Heck, I'm almost FORTY. Yikes. I haven't moved out yet but New Jersey is a very, VERY hard state to move out of. Real estate costs are astronomical and it has become a bad time to go house hunting in any shape or format.

I might get married, but I don't have interest in having kids. It just seems like having kids sucks out any personal time and peace and quiet out of a parent's life for good and I NEED that to retain my sanity. Being 38, it's probably even too late for me to consider it anyway. If I wanted to do it, I probably should have started ten years ago, but back then I was focused more on getting a Master's degree and trying to obtain a job for financial security (and the both of those don't mix well!). I have those now, BUT... it took a long time.

I have met a few ladies I felt a kind of love connection with, but they were either already taken or lesbian. I don't go to dating sites, though, they always felt cheesy and awkward to me. So I don't know how things will go, but I'd hate to see myself just being lonely in the next ten years.

[Chibi Altaria]

It's a bit different for you if you have decided that you don't want kinds, but me, I want kids. O: And since I'm female I do have a ticking biological clock. I mean I know there are things I can do, but it still worries me, you know? Plus I have like, zero savings and no job. I most likely won't ever own a place of my own with the real estate as high as it is. I'm still trying to sort out my career, so I hope this one works. xD

I do understand not wanting kids, though. You're right. Once you have kids it's less about you and more about them, so you need to go in with that mindset or it's just not for you. But I'm happiest when I make others happy, so I think I want to. :3 Of course I would like to travel first. And it's not as though your free time is totally gone; family is there to help look after your kids at times.

I hear ya. I meet very few people that I'm actually interested in (mainly cause I don't go out and now can't go out xD). But yeah, if I do they're usually taken. It doesn't help that currently it seems like EVERYONE I know is getting engaged, married, or having kids. ;__; Personally I don't do dating sites either, and I have no interest in pursuing a long distance relationship if I can avoid it -- much too hard. Here's hoping one day we'll each find someone. XD I have found that I'm a lot less stressed being on my own, though. But at the same time I am lonely.

[Chakramaster]

Yeah it sucks women have a ticking clock when it comes to that, but I guess it's natural. Personally I would like to have kids myself. I wanna make sure I can financially support them first and a family.

It sucks, but it falls to myself and my brother to have a boy come into our family as a kid. Else my family bloodline with our last name ends. The bloodline will continue, but under different names. Yeah out of the 30-40 kids into our family for our generation. My brother and I were the only males. Big responsibility xD

I'm still looking, but I keep getting turned down. I wouldn't be against online dating, but yeah. Since the option is there it is open. Plus it can't hurt. Still wishing one day I can get lucky xD. I'm almost 30 now so...

[AWA1997]

Yeah, I’m in genealogy, and going back to my great-grandpa, I’m in a similar situation. He had brothers, but I don’t know their lines.

My mom didn’t marry my father, so I have her last name. My paternal last name/bloodline combination lives on through my half-brothers, but my maternal is down to two males in my generation, with a third that is uncertain as to if he’s bloodline, or another instance of a child taking the maternal name (of which I am the only one so far).

[Chibi Altaria]

I don't see what the big deal about a family name is. If you want the family name that badly, and don't have any males, you know that you can actually change names. That's a lot of girls though lol.