"Today was a terrible day because..."

[Neo Emolga]

Ah yeah idk if I mentioned it here. Mom got diagnosed with MS back in January. Parents hid it from me until I got back from study abroad but essentially it makes her more prone to fits of anger. The medication she's taking is SUPPOSED to help with that. But I don't think it really does. I've been dealing with this for 21 years and I'm just kinda tired of always being at fault for everything.

Yeah, so don't take her anger personally. It's not you, even though when she's directing the anger at you, sometimes it might feel that way. It's just this condition she needs to fight.

I know it's hard and unpleasant to deal with, but don't let it drag you down. We all know you're an awesome person and you're not the one responsible for what's been going on with her.

[Noblejanobii]

Yeah, so don't take her anger personally. It's not you, even though when she's directing the anger at you, sometimes it might feel that way. It's just this condition she needs to fight.

I know it's hard and unpleasant to deal with, but don't let it drag you down. We all know you're an awesome person and you're not the one responsible for what's been going on with her.

That's the thing though, it's a lot easier said than done especially when she's been like this for as long as I can remember, which is twenty years long than she's had this MS diagnosis. It can't just be the disease and it can't just be work because she's been like this since before either of those factors. And dad's said she wasn't always like this so the only common factor is me.

[Neo Emolga]

That's the thing though, it's a lot easier said than done especially when she's been like this for as long as I can remember, which is twenty years long than she's had this MS diagnosis. It can't just be the disease and it can't just be work because she's been like this since before either of those factors. And dad's said she wasn't always like this so the only common factor is me.

Yeah, but the things that she's been screaming at you for are such minor little things. Do you know how many exams I've gotten a failing grade on? Quite a few. Did I still graduate college and grad school? Sure did! Can you bounce back after failure and screwing up? Absolutely. If you studied as hard as you could without going berserk, then you shouldn't be ashamed. You get off the ground, dust yourself off, and head back in to have another go at it. Or take another path and find a different way to get success.

Also, the kinds of things she's screaming at you for aren't solved by screaming. Her behavior sounds like someone buying a lottery ticket, finding out they didn't win, and screaming at everyone and everything just because of that. No one is perfect and what someone considers "perfect" is totally flawed to someone else.

From where I'm sitting, it sounds like the real, core problem is she focuses more on the problems and the failures instead of the positives and successes you've accomplished. When was the last time she complimented something you did or congratulated you for doing well?

[Noblejanobii]

Yeah, but the things that she's been screaming at you for are such minor little things. Do you know how many exams I've gotten a failing grade on? Quite a few. Did I still graduate college and grad school? Sure did! Can you bounce back after failure and screwing up? Absolutely. If you studied as hard as you could without going berserk, then you shouldn't be ashamed. You get off the ground, dust yourself off, and head back in to have another go at it. Or take another path and find a different way to get success.

Also, the kinds of things she's screaming at you for aren't solved by screaming. Her behavior sounds like someone buying a lottery ticket, finding out they didn't win, and screaming at everyone and everything just because of that. No one is perfect and what someone considers "perfect" is totally flawed to someone else.

From where I'm sitting, it sounds like the real, core problem is she focuses more on the problems and the failures instead of the positives and successes you've accomplished. When was the last time she complimented something you did or congratulated you for doing well?

The irony in that lotto analogy because when she found out she hadn't won the lottery even though she bought a ticket from the store that actually won she was sooooo mad.

Umm... the last time I can recall was when she found out I got a couple commissions back in June, but she later yelled at me for not getting any more so. ^^; Other than that maybe some minor stuff like thanking me for bringing in the trash or carrying stuff in from the car.

[Neo Emolga]

The irony in that lotto analogy because when she found out she hadn't won the lottery even though she bought a ticket from the store that actually won she was sooooo mad.

Umm... the last time I can recall was when she found out I got a couple commissions back in June, but she later yelled at me for not getting any more so. ^^; Other than that maybe some minor stuff like thanking me for bringing in the trash or carrying stuff in from the car.

I actually discerned that...!? Okay, from now on, I really am listening to my psychic powers. But yeah, that's bloody crazy. I mean, I can get the tinge of frustration, but yeah, screaming about it doesn't help. You just gotta move on.

Well, at least she's not a complete monster, but really. She needs to chill out.