Quote Originally Posted by Scytherwolf View Post
Well, I didn't think I'd be posting in this thread so soon, but something happened, and I'm afraid it's going to escalate into something worse and I'm really freaked out right now.

I posted months ago about my (now ex)-friend "Sally." The person who blamed her mental illness on a story I wrote before I'd even met her.

Well, Sally came back.

I thought I'd blocked her on Deviantart, but apparently not, because she commented on something I posted. Most of the comment was okay I guess, but it really freaked me out because I didn't want her to drag me back into the Hell that I was in those months ago.

So I replied, and said I'm not mad at her and please not take it personally but I need to block her because of what happened. This was last night.

Then, earlier today, I got a weird comment saying "I guess the crybaby took it personally *includes a link to Sally saying she's leaving DA* Oh well, who cares." Not the exact wording (I hid the comment and don't want to look at it again) but that's the gist of it. I thought it might be one of Sally's friends trying to make me feel guilty, but I showed it to my sister and she said it sounded a lot like Sally herself. I looked at the account that posted it. It was created today, with 1 single comment (the one to me). So yeah, it's likely that was actually Sally. And that just feels so...manipulative?

I blocked the account, but the reason I'm posting this is because I'm really scared this isn't the end. Because if that was her, she's clearly not above trying to manipulate me into talking to her. I've been super worried all day that she's going to threaten to kill herself again to try to force me.

I just wondered for so long...if she thinks I'm to blame for her mental issues, why does she want anything to do with me?

It makes no freaking SENSE. I just want her to leave me alone. I don't want this.
Don't be freaked out. Take it easy and don't let this get to you, because it would mean Sally's gaining the edge and her schemes are working. You don't want that and it would encourage this same kind of emotionally abusive behavior with you and possibly others if she were to realize it's working.

Continue the account/message blocks on DeviantArt and whatever else she might be contacting you through, but don't respond anymore. You've already made it clear you don't want to be involved with her problems anymore and any kind of response means she's getting through to you and you're listening. You've already tried listening to her, but obviously she didn't listen to you, so don't continue that one-sided exchange. And you and your sister are right, there's a 99.99% chance that account that posted that comment is actually Sally. It sounds like it definitely follows the pattern of manipulation she's been using on you. But good call on blocking that one, too. She's really starting to sound like someone else we're all familiar with... a certain he-who-must-not-be-named. Maybe they can go get married. XD

As I mentioned before, she needs professional help. The kind that only a doctor or therapist can give. Not us everyday peeps online. If she's really feeling suicidal in a sincere way (and not just in a "let me grab this person's heartstrings" way), again, she should be calling that suicide hotline for real guidance, not involve you. A person's empathy and compassion should never be used as a weapon against them. That's just downright evil. So whatever comes out of this, never feel guilty or pressured about anything she's trying to do. You've made your message clear, you've told her you want to be left alone, and that you can't help her. That's it. You've closed the book. Now chuck it in a hole and bury it.

Still, in the end, it definitely sounds like she's attempting once again to leverage emotional abuse to gain control over you. Don't fall for it. Quietly block all of her accounts, ignore her messages, and eventually it will stop. No one enjoys talking to silence for long. Every now and then, she may try another go at it, but continue with the silence and the account blocks.

And yeah, here's to hoping this is the last you have to deal with this and this quickly gets buried. I once had to deal with something similar to this and I'm happy to say it's been quite a few years since the issue resurfaced. I'm hoping you get to enjoy that peace of mind sooner than later.