Quote Originally Posted by Bulbasaur View Post
Nooo, I'm talking about ghosting in general. Like when someone has an issue with you, but instead of addressing it they just cut you out and ignore your messages, leaving you confused and sad.
Ooh, that kind of ghosting. My bad, my thinking was on another track.

I have that problem with my sister at the moment. Asked her if she was going to come up for Thanksgiving and Christmas, but no response. Last year and the year before that, she said her dog was getting too old and she wanted to look after him rather than leave him behind for a week or so. We all figured that made sense (even though she had someone look after him for other things), though we felt it wouldn't have been that big of a deal. He passed away since last year so that wouldn't be the reason now, but still, no response. We're convinced she's not coming up this year, but what happens in 2019? Or the years after that? Is she just going to stay down where she is forever more and never let us know why she doesn't want to visit for the holidays? That would also mean we wouldn't see her again like... ever. I really don't know what she wants anymore.

One problem is she's passive aggressive and prone to mood swings. Like you said, rather than explaining why she feels a certain way and trying to work things out, a lot of the time, it's just "no" and the cold shoulder and you never know what when wrong, thus the problem she has with you never gets resolved. I know she doesn't like my dad, but he's really not that bad of a guy. He's got crude humor and sometimes acts weird and a tinge bit annoying, but that's really the worst he is right now and that's honestly not hard to tolerate and just brush aside. He does way more positive things than negative.

But yeah, if she doesn't ever come forward to just talk things out and come up with a compromise, then forget it, we'll probably never see her again.