The "What do you look like? Thread"

[Suicune's Fire]

@Noblejanobii I don't think it's okay to belittle yourself as a joke. =/ Or for any reason. It's so not necessary, and frankly it's uncomfortable to see. I'd much rather you be stuck-up than be self-ridiculing. Do you know what's attractive? Not looks, not figure...confidence. Honestly, it wins every time. I look up to all sorts of people who harbour a lot of confidence because it's sexy. Not only that, but it's positive.

Someone I know went to school with a boy who was apparently really attractive. The girl he was dating? Someone who was overweight and not that pretty. When asked why he was dating her, he said that it was because she was VERY confident, despite social norms that were put onto her by everyone else. The key isn't to make yourself someone you're not--it's to embrace who you are. And trust me, being a teenager DOESN'T help. I was very insecure even just three years ago, as a seventeen-year-old. But when I realised that there's no point in hating who you are, or being uncomfortable, I learned how to embrace it. I'm more confident at the current point in my life than any other age I've been. I really hope you stop putting yourself down and realise there's no reason to do it; all you're doing is harming yourself and potentially those around you. I'm sure your loved ones would be horrified to hear you deriding yourself like that.

And yes, it's hard to get out of that mindset. It's a process you have to go through. I hope other people read this post and realise that THEY don't have to put themselves down either. Love yourself, because others do. :] And everyone here on the forum doesn't, shouldn't and won't care about people's appearances. Do you honestly think I'd care more about your appearance than your writing ability? When I read your stories, do you reckon I'd be thinking about what you look like? No. Because I don't care. xD And neither should anyone else. x3 And if they do, smack them.

Confidence takes time. I'm not saying "BE CONFIDENT NOW!" (although that would be great for all of us xD) but honestly, stop focusing on these so-called "flaws" and start recognising your inner beauty. :]