Most important values

[Suicune's Fire]

What do you consider to be the most important of human values?

Mine are compassion, kindness, honesty, loyalty and generosity. You know, the typical ones. xD I have found in the past that I would much prefer someone who was, for lack of a better description, not very smart but very kind over someone who is really smart and unkind. I think kindness can really stretch a long way. I've been trying to become a kinder person lately. I think most of the people I look up to in my life are all very, very kind.

I believe compassion is extremely important, because a lack of compassion can result in one not understanding - and not trying to understand - another's point of view.

Honestly has always been very important to me. I am very uncomfortable with lying. Yes, I do lie here and there, but I have always tried to keep it at a bare minimum. I'm usually not even comfortable with white lies.

[Corey]

QUESTIONS LIKE THIS THROW ME INTO THE PITS OF AN IDENTITY CRISIS.

I think kindness trumps intelligence as well. I base everything I do on how other people see it. If you're rude to someone, they're not gonna say "well I mean he is intelligent."

I think, for me, not hurting anyone's feelings is most important to me regarding values. I'm very sensitive, so I get my feelings hurt very easily. I really hate that feeling, so I'd hate to cause that in someone else. It's a terrible, terrible feeling...I'll even often hold back in debates to avoid hurting someone's feelings. So, I guess the word for this would be empathy! Empathy is most important to me. I also think it ties into understanding, compassion, kindness, and honesty. I don't think empathy could be had without those qualities.

[Noblejanobii]

For me… I guess respect would be mine. I know many people who don't understand what personal matters and personal space are. As well as, they don't understand what not to say in front of other people. It really bugs me a lot. I think learning to respect that sometimes other people need to be left alone and learning that "oh I shouldn't say the n word in front of an African American" is something that I think is really important. A lot of people don't seem to get that though.

[[Desolate Divine]]

Say what you mean, mean what you say.
One thing that drives me up the freaking wall is people not saying what they actually mean. Hell, I got into an argument with a bunch of the other Youth Leaders the other night. One of them was having a birthday party, so I asked the others if we could all chip in and get him a double kick pedal (as he is a drummer, and is wanting to get into playing heavier music). The pedal was $180, and I asked 16 people, so between the 17 of us, it was less than $11 each to chip in. And I didn't mind if people couldn't/didn't want to chip in. However what happened next infuriated me.
Does he really need a double kick pedal?
No, but did X need a bike when everyone chipped in last year, or did Y need a new headunit? We got them anyway. And I don't mind being told my ideas suck, as long as something better is suggested. But when my idea is dismissed with nothing better suggested, that annoys me.
It's only a 23rd isn't it?
Yes, but he is having a party, and when one has a party, it is generally polite to get gifts. Besides, we have gotten gifts for 19ths before. Why not 23rds?
How come we haven't done this for any other leaders recently? Is he special?
No. But he is having a party, and it is generally polite to get gifts. If other people had parties, I'd probably try to organize something for them as well.

Basically, the whole thing pissed me off because instead of people saying no, they were trying to stop the whole thing from happening because they disagreed with it. And after that, of the 16 people in the group chat, three said no straight out (which I don't mind), 3 argued against it and five ended up helping (which meant we all had to chip in more). Basically the argument scared another five people off even giving me an answer. In fact, three of the five who chipped in wouldn't have if I didn't ask them privately. And all this could have been avoided if people had have just been simple. Yes or no.

I will add to this when it is not midnight and I am not struggling to type.

[Suicune's Fire]

Very good points, everyone.

Corey, I agree with everything you said! Very true.

Noble, respect is one I forgot on my list. xD Nice one for bringing it up. I dislike when people don't show respect for one's things, as well. It's common courtesy to me, but it doesn't even cross some people's minds.

Jacob, that sounds infuriating. $11 each is not much at all when it totals to something that costs $180, which is not something ONE person can just go out and buy. Especially if you don't "need" it--then he might not end up getting it for a long, long time. It's not a matter of need, really; I'm sure he would love it.

[Reyzadren]

Directness. Say what you mean, mean what you say. Say what it is.

Sort of like honesty, but more in your face.

[Bulbasaur]

Honesty. I've noticed people are not completely honest way more than you would think. I hate it when my friends lie to me to make me feel better about something. I literally beg them to be honest, because I don't care if the truth hurts. I JUST WANT THE TRUTH. XD

[Mujaffa]

honestly.... i'm horrible with all of that there social interaction stuff. just dont be a douchebag and we'll be fine. oh, and dont say "u" instead of "you" COREY. and we'll be just fine COREY. *grinds teeth*