I carry a lot of grudges around with me. Im half tempted to hold a grudge for you creating this thread ;)
Grudges are equally as important as forgiveness..dont let the hippies tell you otherwise. Grudges are natural, anger is natural..if they werent natrual you would do them without thinking. When a person truely understands themself they will understand that anger, grudges, judgement are all things that have to exist to keep a person a live. This mechanizes saved your ansetors and they keep your mind focused on people or things that can not be trust.