Here here on the difficulty of dealing with the girlfriends of DMs.

I'm in a D&D campaign at the moment and it's my first one ever (as is with most of the people in the group) so we're still learning the ropes. The only people who have played D&D before are the DM and his girlfriend. His girlfriend, who is normally a very nice person, gets really mean during our sessions. She makes condescending comments when the new players ask questions and didn't like that a bunch of us had to voice call when we played last semester because three of us were studying abroad. We've figured out that she knows she can manipulate the DM into giving her what she wants and so she uses that to kinda make her character the center of everything and it's a bit annoying. Our DM told us during character creation that since it was our first times he didn't want anyone doing an alignment that was after chaotic neutral (so chaotic evil, etc). And he really didn't want us trying chaotic neutral, which we were fine with. Well, girlfriend pitched a tantrum that she wanted a chaotic neutral character and after about an hour of whining he finally relented only to have her change her mind to make the character lawful neutral instead. She also didn't want me to be a tiefling bard because she said that's not "realistic". Blah blah blah.

In regards to the situation with my mom, yeah I know it's abusive and I shouldn't have to put up with it. But this has been my life for 21 years for as long as I can remember. And short of her disowning me, which I don't really want to happen because then no one will be able to tend to she and my dad in their old age, she'll be like this for the rest of her life. Sure, she's gotten increasingly irrational as time has gone on, but she still tries to make up for it. I think she's becoming more aware of it? Even if what she does doesn't compensate a lot, I can tell she's trying... somewhat. Either way, with the way my degrees are going, if I decide to pick up a last minute minor (which means I might be able to avoid grad school), then I'd be able to leave the nest in a little over a year's time (since it would push me back from graduating in May to August). That end goal is what keeps me going.