Yeah there's no way you should have to put up with that your entire life. It's like having a set bedtime and home by this time set kinda thing. You're out doing things to better your life and career. She shouldn't have to tell you this or that, yet she thinks she has full say so in YOUR choices.

I'd say let her call the police. Too many false alarms and they'll penalize her. She'd be forced to stop.