The Last Poster Wins! [v23]

[Noblejanobii]

...wow.

That's a whole lot of scary tantrum over nothing. Really, when my dad and I pack stuff in the car for a trip or whatever, if it fits, it's good to go. That's all. No drama needed. If there's a disagreement between him and I, I just try to rationalize out why I'm doing things this way. Usually we come to an understanding, even if we may not entirely agree. We had a small squabble when we were having trouble trying to fix a window (a glass pane fell out from age and we were trying to seal it back in), but that's like a really minor thing. And that minor incident was like the worst one that's happened in like half the year.

As far as coins go, geez. That's totally not a big deal. Gather them in a container and sort them to deposit into a bank or dump them into a Coinstar machine, which is what I do. Easy way to deal with them. But screaming at someone and ruining someone's day like that over a measly $.98 (not to mention she's just doing her job)? Come on. Life's too short and hard enough as is to make big scenes over minor things like that.

But really, watching this video convinces me she's completely and utterly mentally unstable. It's a wonder she hasn't been arrested for a random act of violence against someone, whether it's attacking an employee over something minuscule, road rage, or something else. And I could totally see her fighting with a cop and getting herself cuffed or even tasered because she just seems completely berserk and out of control. If she's on medication for this, clearly they need to up the doses on that.

Yeah so that's a glimpse of how most arguments with her go.

Yeah it's really not that big of a deal. Mom just blew it wayyyy out of proportion for no apparent reason? But she does this so.

Again yeah it's really not that big of a deal. I don't like change as much as the next guy but I'm not gonna chew out an employee for something that was my mistake.

I'm not sure if she's on meds for her anger but supposedly her MS causes it to be much much worse so maybe she can get put on it soon.

[Neo Emolga]

Yeah so that's a glimpse of how most arguments with her go.

Yeah it's really not that big of a deal. Mom just blew it wayyyy out of proportion for no apparent reason? But she does this so.

Again yeah it's really not that big of a deal. I don't like change as much as the next guy but I'm not gonna chew out an employee for something that was my mistake.

I'm not sure if she's on meds for her anger but supposedly her MS causes it to be much much worse so maybe she can get put on it soon.

Noble, this kind of behavior from her is disgusting. I have met and interacted with many people in my life, and very, very few of them were ever like this. And those that were are people I've long cut out of my life.

Normal people are not like that. Sure, we may sigh at little frustrations here and there, but anger is usually reserved for those more rarer, more serious incidents where there is gross and extreme unacceptable unfairness. But with her, no, there's no excuse to be constantly triggering off like that. Calling your husband a "son of a b***h" like that over how baggage is packed and getting furious at an employee over $.98? Absolutely unnecessary and unacceptable. There is no way I would tolerate that kind of blatantly disrespectful treatment in a relationship and unless there were major redeeming qualities that my SO had that made up for it (which I don't think she has), it would instantly kill the whole relationship for me.

[Noblejanobii]

Noble, this kind of behavior from her is disgusting. I have met and interacted with many people in my life, and very, very few of them were ever like this. And those that were are people I've long cut out of my life.

Normal people are not like that. Sure, we may sigh at little frustrations here and there, but anger is usually reserved for those more rarer, more serious incidents where there is gross and extreme unacceptable unfairness. But with her, no, there's no excuse to be constantly triggering off like that. Calling your husband a "son of a b***h" like that over how baggage is packed and getting furious at an employee over $.98? Absolutely unnecessary and unacceptable. There is no way I would tolerate that kind of blatantly disrespectful treatment in a relationship and unless there were major redeeming qualities that my SO had that made up for it (which I don't think she has), it would instantly kill the whole relationship for me.

Yeah I've long known it's not normal but there's very little I can do until I move out. I've grinned and bore it for this long, I can manage a little while longer.

[Neo Emolga]

Yeah I've long known it's not normal but there's very little I can do until I move out. I've grinned and bore it for this long, I can manage a little while longer.

I hope you're able to move out soon and just have a personal place you can retreat to. Dealing with people like this is poison. My mom had terrible parents with her mother being emotionally abusive (I had to deal with her and boy was she a monster) while the father unleashed physical abuse and violence that would have gotten him arrested for child abuse and child endangerment by today's laws (thankfully my brother, sister, and myself never had to deal with that as he died before we were born). At the end of the day, the only solution was to cut them out completely. They were way too toxic to tolerate.

But as far as moving out goes, even if it's just a studio apartment, as long as it's a place where you have the keys and she doesn't, I think that would give you some real peace of mind. That way, even when you do visit her for whatever holiday thing, if she starts acting up like this, you can just walk out the door and head back home and lock the door behind you, even if she's trying to trail you. She'd soon realize the maternal leverage she has is gone and no longer applicable in a situation like that. She can scream at your door all night until her face turns blue, you don't have to listen or open up. Eventually she'll have to give up.

[Noblejanobii]

I hope you're able to move out soon and just have a personal place you can retreat to. Dealing with people like this is poison. My mom had terrible parents with her mother being emotionally abusive (I had to deal with her and boy was she a monster) while the father unleashed physical abuse and violence that would have gotten him arrested for child abuse and child endangerment by today's laws (thankfully my brother, sister, and myself never had to deal with that as he died before we were born). At the end of the day, the only solution was to cut them out completely. They were way too toxic to tolerate.

But as far as moving out goes, even if it's just a studio apartment, as long as it's a place where you have the keys and she doesn't, I think that would give you some real peace of mind. That way, even when you do visit her for whatever holiday thing, if she starts acting up like this, you can just walk out the door and head back home and lock the door behind you, even if she's trying to trail you. She'd soon realize the maternal leverage she has is gone and no longer applicable in a situation like that. She can scream at your door all night until her face turns blue, you don't have to listen or open up. Eventually she'll have to give up.

Yeah I'm hoping when I move to DC that will help things. When I lived in DC and Spain, even though she still called constantly, the distance was very nice.