The Last Poster Wins [v28]

[Noblejanobii]

You’d think that’s how it’d work but I don’t get a vote despite the fact that I’ll be living there. Mom decides not me.

[Neo Emolga]

Well, if she's paying the rent and the one you want is more expensive, I don't see why it would be an issue if you pay the difference from what the other one costs.

But if you're paying the rent entirely, no way should this even be an issue.

[Noblejanobii]

Well, if she's paying the rent and the one you want is more expensive, I don't see why it would be an issue if you pay the difference from what the other one costs.

But if you're paying the rent entirely, no way should this even be an issue.

The apartments are roughly the same price so it’s negligible either way (I’m not kidding it’s like $25 different). But I will be paying the entire rent so again, you’d think it’d be my choice. But alas, I do not get a vote.

Either way at this point I could care very little, since this will be one of the final decisions she gets a say in for a while.

[Neo Emolga]

The apartments are roughly the same price so it’s negligible either way (I’m not kidding it’s like $25 different). But I will be paying the entire rent so again, you’d think it’d be my choice. But alas, I do not get a vote.

Either way at this point I could care very little, since this will be one of the final decisions she gets a say in for a while.

WHY DO YOU NOT GET A VOTE? The entire decision should be up to you! This is your living arrangement, if she doesn't like it, too bad! Heck, if you moved way out of state, there's nothing she could do about it.

Really, this is serious control freak condescending paternalism.

[Noblejanobii]

idk how much time you've got to change her mind or if she ever will though.
Will you feel bitter about your place if you have to choose the one she chooses for you?

Not enough time really and she’s pretty much already set her mind to this place so I doubt I could convince her otherwise.

Ye it’s not like I hate the place or anything. In terms of a lot of things like space and amenities it is definitely better, it’s just not what I want.

WHY DO YOU NOT GET A VOTE? The entire decision should be up to you! This is your living arrangement, if she doesn't like it, too bad! Heck, if you moved way out of state, there's nothing she could do about it.

Really, this is serious control freak condescending paternalism.

Yeah I don’t know what to tell ya man. This is just how she is. How she’s always been.

[Chakramaster]

Lot of reflecting on life myself lately too. Had a discussion with my friend last night and it kinda got to me. On really deciding my plan in life too and what to go back to college for. It's a tough decision. I've got my core all out of the way. It's just deciding what. Cyber Security is REALLY big lately. Especially here in my city. The latest build and most up to date cyber security center in the nation. So it's worth looking into...again.

[Neo Emolga]

I have heard a lot of good things about the field as well. Sounds like it would be interesting to get into, also.

[Lychee]

That sounds like it kinda sucks!
My mum had a hand in one of my most recent rentals too- also not because she paid, but because she had a strong opinion! "I love this place! I would live here! Dont leave it! It's so handy for me!" But eventually after I told her about all the problems with living there she agreed it wasn't the best... idk how much time you've got to change her mind or if she ever will though.
Will you feel bitter about your place if you have to choose the one she chooses for you?

Two of my friends actually BOUGHT houses recently and wheeww that sounds like such an effort but also they all seem so relieved to no longer have to pay rent to a random landlord, and to be able to hang hooks, paint walls, or change things about the kitchens!
I went to one friends house the other day and he had like, a smart lock on the door? It had finger print stuff and codes and sung a little song and logged who went in it and when. And he made all his lights voice activated! like WOAH SO FANCY! I dont think his parents had any say in it... but idk if his parents have met his partners either so I guess some people just live relatively family pressure free!

[Chakramaster]

Yeah the fact you're the one paying the rent and you don't get a vote makes no sense at all. I mean what's stopping you from letting her let you move into one. Then moving out and into the other? Since after all. It's your money and your choice.

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I have nothing to add to this conversation, I am just sneaking in a post so no one but me wins.

Also I got a new keyboard and the switches make it so satisfying to hear the keys typing.