Quote Originally Posted by Absol View Post
Hahah d'aww, don't be mad ;_;

But in all honesty although my opinion is almost opposite of yours I can totally understand your points! I guess it's really up to the individual and how they manage their thoughts. To me grudges impact me to such a degree that it's bad for my mental health so I learned to forgive quickly (although it wasn't easy). If people carry grudges and they find they don't affect them too much, but benefit them in some way then all the power to them.

I guess at the end of the day it's just not for me.
Neither of us is wrong here. The problem total forgiveness is that its not possible. Everyone here can say they dont hold grudges but if someone took everything from you, or stole your dream for you...you bet a smile or kind thoughts of forgiveness would never really cure it. Also you have to think about holding grudges is a your way of keeping yourself safe. Those feelings of mistrust could have protected good people from untrustworthy people.

The system is not perfect, and holding grudges isnt always healthy, but it is completely built into and its natural.