My only purpose here is defend balance. If you dont hold grudges you never really learn the lessons of letting that pain go. Both are equally important and both have pushed the world around us in different ways. People get different things for grudges and forgiveness. Sometimes people need that hate and that motivation they need it as a reminder of things that are not right. Other times people need to learn to let go because its only causing them more damage. Its just not a black and white kind of thing.