*Did you think that was serious? Normally, words like this followed by emoticons are taken as a joke. That was and obvious joke meant for my friend Absol ;) Not sure why you dont get that im just defending the other side of the coin, or why you think any of what I said warranted the above insults (referring to the last couple of responses).. Not respecting others opinions makes for unneeded tension.

I completely get what everyone is saying. I already understand all of that, emotions come in steps, with one thing you cant have the other. How can you learn from pain or your anger or the rotten things you are going to do. If life was so simple that you could just forgive and forget everything.
I consider myself close to be a Buddhist for a long time. I dont like violence in anyway shape or form. Buddhism is about balance, everything your going to do is part of you and you must accept that. Just like getting past a grudge things take time and understanding. The grudge and those feelings are just as important as the journey it takes to forgiveness. You can never really understand you unless you can respect the bad side of your choices and the things that trigger those reactions. You can learn to accept them.

However as a person who likes to view the world as it is, some of the worst things in the world have been accepted because they moved something forward. Not saying they were right but everything has bad and everything has good. I really didnt want this to be an argument but it seems that this is a subject that is more close minded that open for an open discussion. I think its important every thought should be explored, even the crappy stuff deserves a place in this because all of us have had to go through stuff that shaped us both for good and for bad.
With this I will stop talking on this thread because I fear its only making things worse..lol and despite all that I have said about forgiveness being important being part of a witch hunt is never fun.