Do you get butterflies in your stomach?

[SassySnivy]

Do you get crushes? Or if you're already in a relationship or married, do you still develop crushes? I'm talking about real people, here, not fictional characters or celebrities. Hehe, not this time, anyway....

I'll start off by saying yes! I do still get crushes. Well...that is, my crushes on people I actually know or meet are really rare. I get crushes on fictional characters all the time, but that's beside the point. Imho it's perfectly normal and healthy to develop an attraction to someone who isn't your S/O, as long as you have self-control and don't act upon it. YOU CAN'T HELP WHAT OR WHO YOU'RE ATTRACTED TO! You can't help what preferences you have. That's not to say if you have an S/O and you DON'T form crushes, you're a complete freak; that's also completely untrue! Both are very normal phenomena to experience, and everyone is different! My husband says that he hasn't formed crushes on anyone else since we got together, which is one reason why I haven't told him about one big crush I had lately (which I'm about to explain). Plus, I don't want to ruin their friendship. God, that would kill me!

How do you develop crushes? Is it just a thing that suddenly comes out of nowhere, or do you go through certain stages until it becomes a fully-fledged crush? Are you secretive or embarrassed about your crushes (unless the situation calls for it, like staying quiet about a crush you have on someone while you're in a relationship)?

I always go through certain stages. First is the stage I'm mostly unaware of: I'm always thinking about the person. The first stage of a crush for me, for some reason, usually is reinforced by a dream. Like, I'll think about that person more for whatever reason and then have some weird-a**, romantic dream about them which further solidifies my feelings.

Then I start thinking about them even more, and completely deny it.

Afterwards comes the acceptance stage. At this point it's kinda hard to control / contain your feelings. xD

Who's the person you've most recently had a crush on? If you're embarrassed to say, that's completely understandable...but we're all friends here! We won't judge
I'll be honest: I had a crush on Bulbasaur / Eric for a little while. I'm not sure why, I just did. xD As of late I had a big crush on my husband's friend. He's probably one of the dorkiest people I know, which makes it all the more hilarious. For a while it was driving me freaking crazy because it felt so wrong, but now I understand it really isn't a big deal. If I don't treat it like it's a big deal, it won't bother me. I guess...I kinda still have feelings for him? Just a little? Iunno, they kinda come and go. O_o

I used to see crushes as a pretty big deal back in the day before I got married, but now they're pretty insignificant. Minus the latter crush, anyway.

[Suicune's Fire]

Lol once you're married it's like, "Pfft! Whateveeerrrrr!" xD

I used to get crushes. Mostly they'd only last a month or two, though, so they weren't a big deal. Since being in a relationship, I haven't had a crush on anyone else. I think it's not something you can control, like you said, Speed. I also know that it can be undesirable to have a crush while in a relationship (whether married or gf/bf). My brother developed a crush on one of his and his partner's mutual friends, and his partner found out...then things between them were really awkward and you could slice through the tension with a knife. Like...not good.

If I were to develop a crush, I'd force it to go away. I can actually do this, as I've done it in the past (before my relationship), but I'm pretty sure it's also some sort of superpower that a lot of people are incapable of. xD I don't become intoxicated by people to the point where I find them irresistible, so it's easy for me to distance myself from someone. I like it better that way. xD I don't care if my partner has a crush on anyone because I rarely get jealous, and I know that it's not going to lead anywhere.


Referring to the actual thread title, though, I do get butterflies when I watch TV/films sometimes when characters kiss. XD It's only when I actually like/approve of the romance, though, which isn't that often since I don't much like the romance genre, haha. But I do like it tied in with other things. Provided it's not dumb.

[Chakramaster]

Well of course we all get them. Heck I've never been in a relationship yet I've got them before. I've never really had one on a fictional character (since I was younger). There's been plenty of girls I have seen that way since middle school. I can name them too. Middle school there was only two: a girl named Lindsy (you know, the one I mentioned who crushed me by sending her friend to tell me she thought I was "butt ugly" =/, and then the girl who I really like after that Emily. After finding out she had someone already though I let it go. Ever since then it's been kinda quiet on that end

Until recently my best friend has been trying to push me more. There was a girl on Final Fantasy 14 (it's an mmo) I was playing with for a good few weeks that I noticed started talking to me a lot more. The more I looked at it, it felt more like she was "liking" me. I noticed it, but one day my friend joined us. Then HE noticed it. I thought it was odd, but right after that he went all out in the public chat....telling her "You know Chakra is single right?" I'm just over in the corner hiding after that...even though I knew she already had a BF. Though after that little thing I started thinking more.

I really do need to find at least one girl soon to get into a relationship with. I even talked with that girl and one of her friends later on and they kinda supported me in the same way I know you all probably will after this post xD. Saying I'll find that Mrs. in my life someday. I have been staying more open to it lately though that's for sure. Hopefully I can get past those "crush" feelings. I still do get them...lately it's been hard to tell if I have them or just misread situations though. I'd rather not come off as super awkward ;-;

[Noblejanobii]

*sigh* I wish. I'm going to start off by saying, well, you're wrong if you think everyone gets them. I've never had a crush in the way anyone has ever described it to me. My throat never goes dry, I don't feel flustered around the person, I don't get butterflies, or anything really. I think the closest I've ever come to a crush is the literal acknowledgement that a guy is someone I would totally date, and I don't think that's the same thing as a crush. I'm still kind of waiting for the infamous "first crush" to occur and I'll be honest, it's still disappointing to this day that I've never had even a little crush, especially since I've always been told once you hit puberty that you're immediately supposed to start having crushes. I don't think I've ever had one in my life and I've never once been told "oh yeah that's okay". I guess society views that it's not but you know, it's one of those things. Maybe I'll start having crushes when I get to college.

[SassySnivy]

*sigh* I wish. I'm going to start off by saying, well, you're wrong if you think everyone gets them. I've never had a crush in the way anyone has ever described it to me. My throat never goes dry, I don't feel flustered around the person, I don't get butterflies, or anything really. I think the closest I've ever come to a crush is the literal acknowledgement that a guy is someone I would totally date, and I don't think that's the same thing as a crush. I'm still kind of waiting for the infamous "first crush" to occur and I'll be honest, it's still disappointing to this day that I've never had even a little crush, especially since I've always been told once you hit puberty that you're immediately supposed to start having crushes. I don't think I've ever had one in my life and I've never once been told "oh yeah that's okay". I guess society views that it's not but you know, it's one of those things. Maybe I'll start having crushes when I get to college.

Uh...where did I say I think that everyone gets them? I don't recall saying that. Especially since aromanticism is a thing. O_o You never know, you could be aromantic. *shrugs*

[Noblejanobii]

Uh...where did I say I think that everyone gets them? I don't recall saying that. Especially since aromanticism is a thing. O_o You never know, you could be aromantic. *shrugs*

You didn't, I wasn't saying you do. Chakra said "Well of course we all get them." Which I think is incorrect. The You I was using was referring to the general you not like you in particular.

[SassySnivy]

You didn't, I wasn't saying you do. Chakra said "Well of course we all get them." Which I think is incorrect. The You I was using was referring to the general you not like you in particular.

Ohh, right. My bad!

[Noblejanobii]

And I don't really know if I am aromantic since I want to be in a relationship, but I've just never crushed on someone. Aromantic, as I have always heard it defined, is that the person has no desire to be in a relationship or anything of the short. I don't think it means the inability to feel them, though I could be wrong, since words commonly have more than one meaning.

[Chakramaster]

You didn't, I wasn't saying you do. Chakra said "Well of course we all get them." Which I think is incorrect. The You I was using was referring to the general you not like you in particular.

Ah right. Sorry I put it poorly. Yeah not every one of us gets them early on, but at some point in our lives we do. It's those feeling that kinda change us though especially from the very first one you get. Then again not even ALL of us get them either. Some just go with it from the start. So you may not have had any yet, but it may come in time.

[Noblejanobii]

Ah right. Sorry I put it poorly. Yeah not every one of us gets them early on, but at some point in our lives we do. It's those feeling that kinda change us though especially from the very first one you get. Then again not even ALL of us get them either. Some just go with it from the start. So you may not have had any yet, but it may come in time.

Yeah, well, I've gotten to the point where I've started to think maybe I'm just destined to remain alone because I haven't had this "life changing experience" known as a crush that everyone keeps talking about.