You can't really blame someone for having standards, though. Everyone does, and they've got every right to. That being said, some people stick hard to their standards while others don't.

I remember when I got "set up with someone," it didn't end well. At all. Actually, both times that happened! So never let that happen to you.

It's not determined by luck, but simultaneously it is. Still, unless you try to meet new people, you might not get very far. But that's no biggie! Sometimes someone you only gave a passing glance to years before could turn out to make a huge impact in your life.

Storytime!

David and I got together by sheer chance. He was in one of my classes in my sophomore year (German), and I didn't know him. At all. He was just another goofball that happened to be in the same class as me; whatever. I made friends with another girl that year--like, REALLY close friends. A year later she said that she had her current German class with David (we weren't in the same class period that year) and she'd made friends with him. Sometime in the second semester, our German III classes went on a field trip to Washington University out by St. Louis because they were having some kind of German culture celebration. Come to think of it, maybe this happened in the fall. I can't remember....

The three of us were stuck in a group together. I hadn't formally met David until just that day. We all got along really well! We were just three goofy little high schoolers that just wanted to have fun. xD You know how that goes, lol.

Didn't really talk to him after that, y'know? Didn't feel the need to. There really wasn't anything there. I stayed friends with Liz for another two years after that (we're STILL friends, we just aren't as close because she moved 2 hours away and we always did things together IN PERSON anyway, we never really texted each other much). One evening on the way back home from Six Flags she asks me if I remember David from the field trip. It takes me a while, but yeah, I tell her I remember. She said that she kinda had a crush on him for a while, until he flirted with our mutual friend Katie, on Facebook. She was a little pissed about this and had sent him a message that basically politely said, "wtf", and she said he said that he saw her like a sis and blah blah blah, I guess this information really isn't all that relevant. My bad. :\

Anyway maybe a month later he messages me on Facebook out of the blue. We talk and he flirts with me a little and we get along great. I'm taken aback by how sweet he is, lol. So we set up a date for Six Flags that coming Wednesday.

I dunno, but by the end of that day I decided to give him a chance. Something felt right. I NEVER actually had a crush on David or anything of the sort, which is really odd, looking back. So we start dating and you guys know the story from there.



This being said, sometimes you have to get past a lot of bad apples. I went through about 5. There was only one breakup in which I still hold a slight grudge against that person. The others were understandable, despite seeming to come up out of nowhere. It was just a bad time, bad place, and probably a bad matchup.

But, uh, the one that I still hold a slight grudge against is the one where my friend hooked us up. I had this kid, Josh, for a lot of different classes in the past, so I knew OF him and vice versa. It was a bad hookup...we literally talked a couple of times, then we all went on a double-date to the movies, and we started dating. It was mainly because I felt pressured into it because he said that he already liked me so far and such. I told him that I wasn't sure about it, and then he talked me into it.

I was happy for a little while. Cosmetically happy, anyway. xD Just on the surface. It was like a, "oh yay I feel accepted because a cute guy likes me in a romantic way and I feel like this is what I've been needing and yaddah-yaddah" sort of thing. I don't think I was really all that into it, looking back.

The day of the Winter Formal for our school, I go over to his house (which I had been over to a few times before, so this was no big deal or anything). We kiss a bit and then he tries to unbutton my pants and I'm like, WHOA WHOA WHOA NOT SO FAST. I freak out, start crying (because this kind of thing had never happened to me before and it was scary), he takes it in stride. I didn't have sex with him, obviously, because something felt wrong. SO. WRONG.

So about a week later he breaks up with me over the phone / over text because he's a coward. One of his reasons was, "because you like anime and anime is for kids" (SERIOUSLY, I KID YOU GUYS NOT.), though it was pretty obvious it was just a s****y coverup for him being butthurt about me c***-blocking him. Still, I'm still infuriated over that reasoning because people who think that seriously have negative IQ and are cancer to society, and it reminded me that people like that actually do exist and just asdfasdfa

That was the ONLY breakup where I didn't cry. Nah, I was just pissed.



I got married young, but that's just how the puzzle pieces ended up falling into place, really. Also, David and I don't even share a lot of the same interests and we get along well. We don't always have stuff to talk about because of this, but that really doesn't bother me and probably does bother David a bit but you know, he hides his discomfort with that kind of stuff all the time so yeah *shrugs*

So long as the other person has an open mind, don't focus so much on someone having the same exact interests as you. Sometimes it's not all it's cracked up to be. Sometimes you learn more when you're with someone who has different interests than you. Just make sure you're on the same level about things, though. That's probably one big reason why David and I get along so well: we're both pretty open-minded and we stand on the same plane on a lot of different subjects.