I lucid dream a lot! Or like, semi lucid dream. Being in total control of your dream is a real bore, tbh. It's just easier and less thinking to go with the flow most of the time, and give myself a couple of nifty powers to make things easier.
In my family it was common to talk about our dreams over breakfast, and also we all like to sleep, so I've spent a lot of my life feeling pretty in touch with that stuff! If you train your mind to remember what a dream feels like, then it's much easier to recognize and then remember in future!

In my dreams, I can fly (but I have to flap or get a running start lol) and i can shapeshift (I'm better at it if I have a mirror) I and I can vaporize toublesome people into the void (which means I can take control of a nightmare very quickly). I dont use any props! But some of my family have little things they have in a dream that give them power- sometimes it's easier to remember a power if you have an item to trigger it? Idk.

That said, if you have ongoing dreams about the same situation and feelings... theres probably something else at play irl you'll have to resolve.