Your Sexuality?

[Palamon]

This thread should be simple, and I hope it doesn't go off the rails. Basically, the question is: what is your sexuality? Are you still questioning? And when did you discover this was your sexuality? Also, do you think sexuality is a choice?

[Neo Emolga]

I know I'm definitely heterosexual, but I'm super-shy when it comes to the dating scene. Rejection and feeling embarrassed is something I'm terrified about...

[Sieses]

Asexual. Absolutely no interest in it whatsoever. I have no idea when or how this came about, but I haven't had any real thoughts about it in years, so there it is.

[Vishnal]

I have no idea 8Db

In all seriousness, I'm certain I'm romantically attracted to men. I have found myself crushing on women; however, said women were close to me at some point so it's possible I mistook my connecting with them as attraction. I've never dated or had any sort of romantic experience (outside of roleplaying/playing video games with dating elements, though those don't provide a genuine experience), so I don't think I'll know for certain 'til I have the experience.

[Kurosaki]

I guess I'm bi. Primarily I'm attracted to girls and fall for them more often, but I can crush on guys, too, so. That's kinda that.

[Palamon]

I'm gynosexual.

That means I'm only attracted to girls. I'd totally be all for dating a trans girl, non-binary girl, demigirl, you name it! But boys and whatnot, I'm not interested at all, in any way, and I'd never date one or get together with one, under any circumstance at all. I'd say lesbian, but I'm not a girl, and don't identify as female, and I'm not a boy, either. Gynosexual is just a term for people who are only attracted to girls, regardless of gender, so I use it. I was questioning my sexuality when I was fifteen, but finally figured it out a year after that. And, no, sexuality isn't a choice, at all. It's a point of discovery, and you can't choose it. If I had a choice, I'd not be (since I'm dfab), homosexual because of all the oppression we go through because of it. =/ I hope that I explained my sexuality correctly! If you have questions, ask me, I guess.

[Aloasa]

I actually thought I was straight for a long time... but since hitting puverty I really been crushing on dudes as well, so I would say Bi... .. but then agaian I've felt more girlish recently... yet still boy-ish.... idk... all I know is that I have a wonderful boyfriend in Australia just waiting for me <3

[Kieran]

I'm bi. I've never had a gay experience but I only came out a few days ago. I think I told a few people when I first discovered it though.

Yeah. Gay spam. ~

[Chakramaster]

Well mine comes with a little story. I had always though myself to be heterosexual, only attracted to women throughout middle and high school. After graduating back in 09 and moving to college. Thoughts on the idea came into my mind. I've never had a girlfriend, well technically. Even though one did say she tried to back in high school. Nothing came out of it. Suddenly though a few years of being in college. Strange thoughts, or mixed thoughts came to me. It was kind of a confusing time. What was it? Was it meant to be one way or the other. It lead me down a path I'd rather not go into or remember....but it wasn't until recently I finally came to. After years of looking around, thinking, meditating on the idea, and praying for guidance on it....I ran across a story (fanfic rather) that woke me up and helped me figure out the answer. Ever since I've never felt more happier to have gotten past that roadblock. It's like a big sigh of relief.

Now, today I can safely say that yeah I am a heterosexual male. Only women are attractive to me. I still am as shy as they come when trying to talk to one and I'm not the kind of guy to actively try to hit on them. Not been on a date yet, but it'll happen one day...I'm sure of it.

I gotta say it's hard to say. I'd say it is a choice, but some people just feel differently about that. I'll never know that feeling so I can't naturally say for others. I felt like I had a choice, but I woke up from that block and feel like it's not. That, THIS is the way I am and it's natural for me to like women. So I'm glad I found that story. Random google searches can be useful sometimes lol.

[Noblejanobii]

I'm about as straight as you get. Though, I do have people who have assumed I'm asexual purely because I don't crush or date anyone (because apparently that's necessary in high school). I would say I "discovered" my sexuality when I was eight, which I know people might be suspicious about because that was really early on in life but just hear me out. As many of y'all may or may not know, I have homophobia steaming from childhood trauma. So, it's not my government textbook's definition of homophobia "the hatred of gays." No, I legitimately have homophobia, to a certain extent. Since the cause of the trauma was a lesbian, I tend to only react around people that I know are lesbians and only if they touch me. I know how stupid that sounds and know some of you are judging me hard but literally, when you're attacked by an 18-year old girl when you're eight and she makes lesbian moves towards you, it tends to stick. So, even though I wasn't aware of differing sexualities at the time, by the time I discovered there were more, that trauma prevented me from ever even considering going any other way. I'm also under the belief that you do choose your sexuality, but certain events can change or affirm your sexuality. For example, I was cemented straight after the aforementioned incident. I don't think it's genetic or you're born with it, I think you pick it but it develops into a mindset that is difficult or impossible to change.