"Today was a terrible day because..."

**Chakramaster** · 10-21-2018, 03:25 AM

Originally Posted by Cleobel

Hello everybody, today was a terrible day for me because I'm increasingly struggling with the English class at college. Today, I was feeling like crying during the English class, so I (silently) told myself not to cry. I don't want to fail that class.

... At least, I managed not to cry in the classroom.

Still that's awful. School can be super stressful for sure. I struggled in language classes quite often. It wasn't until college I started doing better in Writing classes. Then again some college's and professors have differences in how they like things done. As with what Neo (Victini) said. Maybe you can also meet up with another classmate or find someone who can help proofread you work before you submit it. That way you have time to make any changes according to their tips. It can be hard to keep your confidence depending on how your grades are and how well it all comes to you. Trying to work with others or get more tips from the professor. If you ever need some encouragement or pep talk. You can always talk to us! We'll be here for you to help try and cheer you up, Cleobel! :D

**Cleobel** · 10-21-2018, 07:41 AM

Originally Posted by Pineweaver Pichu

Still that's awful. School can be super stressful for sure. I struggled in language classes quite often. It wasn't until college I started doing better in Writing classes. Then again some college's and professors have differences in how they like things done. As with what Neo (Victini) said. Maybe you can also meet up with another classmate or find someone who can help proofread you work before you submit it. That way you have time to make any changes according to their tips. It can be hard to keep your confidence depending on how your grades are and how well it all comes to you. Trying to work with others or get more tips from the professor. If you ever need some encouragement or pep talk. You can always talk to us! We'll be here for you to help try and cheer you up, Cleobel! :D

Thank you for your advice, Pineweaver Pichu. Sorry to hear that you struggled in language classes as well. :/
Perhaps I should write a quick update about the situation : I'm still struggling with the English class, I can't talk with the teacher after the class because she always leaves the classroom quickly after the class, and she did not reply to my email.
I discussed the situation with my only college friend (he is not my classmate, but he has the same English teacher as me). He gave me some advice, which is very nice of him, but I have not been able to get feedback about it from the teacher yet. After all, students can make mistakes, even if they have good intentions.
As for someone who can help proofread my work before I submit it, that's not exactly the person I'm looking for, because most assignments and tests for the English class (including the final exam) must be submitted orally.
I confirm that it is hard to keep my confidence in this situation, especially as a PXR member : I hope that no one on this English-speaking forum will judge me because I'm struggling with the English class.
Last but not least, thank you for your support. That's very kind of you. :)

**Caunadan** · 10-21-2018, 01:01 PM

Originally Posted by Cleobel

Thank you for your advice, Pineweaver Pichu. Sorry to hear that you struggled in language classes as well. :/
Perhaps I should write a quick update about the situation : I'm still struggling with the English class, I can't talk with the teacher after the class because she always leaves the classroom quickly after the class, and she did not reply to my email.
I discussed the situation with my only college friend (he is not my classmate, but he has the same English teacher as me). He gave me some advice, which is very nice of him, but I have not been able to get feedback about it from the teacher yet. After all, students can make mistakes, even if they have good intentions.
As for someone who can help proofread my work before I submit it, that's not exactly the person I'm looking for, because most assignments and tests for the English class (including the final exam) must be submitted orally.
I confirm that it is hard to keep my confidence in this situation, especially as a PXR member : I hope that no one on this English-speaking forum will judge me because I'm struggling with the English class.
Last but not least, thank you for your support. That's very kind of you. :)

I don't think you have to worry about anybody judging you over it here; I sure won't. Orally is one thing and it's understandable to me how a non-native speaker might struggle if that's the format, however when it comes to your writing/typing, on here and online in general, your English is very good! If I had not known otherwise and only knew of you from the things you've typed here I would not have guessed it was not your native tongue. Wish you the best with your class and oral report struggles (and I think you should continue to try and speak to your professor about it, perhaps even leave a note on her desk at the start of class one day or something asking her to see you for a minute when it's finished and before she leaves quickly, if she doesn't get to e-mail) but I wouldn't worry about any judgements from people here, I can't imagine anybody here being like that.

Being monolingual and always having struggled greatly to learn any new language apart from a few words and maybe phrases, I've got respect for anybody who is as adept at more than one as you demonstrate. :)

**Cleobel** · 10-21-2018, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by Caunadan

I don't think you have to worry about anybody judging you over it here; I sure won't. Orally is one thing and it's understandable to me how a non-native speaker might struggle if that's the format, however when it comes to your writing/typing, on here and online in general, your English is very good! If I had not known otherwise and only knew of you from the things you've typed here I would not have guessed it was not your native tongue. Wish you the best with your class and oral report struggles (and I think you should continue to try and speak to your professor about it, perhaps even leave a note on her desk at the start of class one day or something asking her to see you for a minute when it's finished and before she leaves quickly, if she doesn't get to e-mail) but I wouldn't worry about any judgements from people here, I can't imagine anybody here being like that.

Being monolingual and always having struggled greatly to learn any new language apart from a few words and maybe phrases, I've got respect for anybody who is as adept at more than one as you demonstrate. :)

Thank you for your support, compliments and advice. That's very kind of you. :)
Sorry to hear that you have always struggled greatly to learn languages. :/

**Cleobel** · 11-09-2018, 10:06 AM

@Caunadan @Chakramaster @Neo Emolga

I am writing this post to inform you that my issue with the English class has been solved. Thanks again for your messages. :)

**Neo Emolga** · 11-09-2018, 12:23 PM

Originally Posted by Cleobel

@Caunadan @Chakramaster @Neo Emolga

I am writing this post to inform you that my issue with the English class has been solved. Thanks again for your messages. :)

That rocks, glad to hear that! :D

We knew you had it in ya.

**Scytherwolf** · 11-29-2018, 08:01 AM

Well, I didn't think I'd be posting in this thread so soon, but something happened, and I'm afraid it's going to escalate into something worse and I'm really freaked out right now.

I posted months ago about my (now ex)-friend "Sally." The person who blamed her mental illness on a story I wrote before I'd even met her.

Well, Sally came back.

I thought I'd blocked her on Deviantart, but apparently not, because she commented on something I posted. Most of the comment was okay I guess, but it really freaked me out because I didn't want her to drag me back into the Hell that I was in those months ago.

So I replied, and said I'm not mad at her and please not take it personally but I need to block her because of what happened. This was last night.

Then, earlier today, I got a weird comment saying "I guess the crybaby took it personally *includes a link to Sally saying she's leaving DA* Oh well, who cares." Not the exact wording (I hid the comment and don't want to look at it again) but that's the gist of it. I thought it might be one of Sally's friends trying to make me feel guilty, but I showed it to my sister and she said it sounded a lot like Sally herself. I looked at the account that posted it. It was created today, with 1 single comment (the one to me). So yeah, it's likely that was actually Sally. And that just feels so...manipulative?

I blocked the account, but the reason I'm posting this is because I'm really scared this isn't the end. Because if that was her, she's clearly not above trying to manipulate me into talking to her. I've been super worried all day that she's going to threaten to kill herself again to try to force me.

I just wondered for so long...if she thinks I'm to blame for her mental issues, why does she want anything to do with me?

It makes no freaking SENSE. I just want her to leave me alone. I don't want this.

**Neo Emolga** · 11-29-2018, 10:02 PM

Originally Posted by Scytherwolf

Well, I didn't think I'd be posting in this thread so soon, but something happened, and I'm afraid it's going to escalate into something worse and I'm really freaked out right now.

I posted months ago about my (now ex)-friend "Sally." The person who blamed her mental illness on a story I wrote before I'd even met her.

Well, Sally came back.

I thought I'd blocked her on Deviantart, but apparently not, because she commented on something I posted. Most of the comment was okay I guess, but it really freaked me out because I didn't want her to drag me back into the Hell that I was in those months ago.

So I replied, and said I'm not mad at her and please not take it personally but I need to block her because of what happened. This was last night.

Then, earlier today, I got a weird comment saying "I guess the crybaby took it personally *includes a link to Sally saying she's leaving DA* Oh well, who cares." Not the exact wording (I hid the comment and don't want to look at it again) but that's the gist of it. I thought it might be one of Sally's friends trying to make me feel guilty, but I showed it to my sister and she said it sounded a lot like Sally herself. I looked at the account that posted it. It was created today, with 1 single comment (the one to me). So yeah, it's likely that was actually Sally. And that just feels so...manipulative?

I blocked the account, but the reason I'm posting this is because I'm really scared this isn't the end. Because if that was her, she's clearly not above trying to manipulate me into talking to her. I've been super worried all day that she's going to threaten to kill herself again to try to force me.

I just wondered for so long...if she thinks I'm to blame for her mental issues, why does she want anything to do with me?

It makes no freaking SENSE. I just want her to leave me alone. I don't want this.

Don't be freaked out. Take it easy and don't let this get to you, because it would mean Sally's gaining the edge and her schemes are working. You don't want that and it would encourage this same kind of emotionally abusive behavior with you and possibly others if she were to realize it's working.

Continue the account/message blocks on DeviantArt and whatever else she might be contacting you through, but don't respond anymore. You've already made it clear you don't want to be involved with her problems anymore and any kind of response means she's getting through to you and you're listening. You've already tried listening to her, but obviously she didn't listen to you, so don't continue that one-sided exchange. And you and your sister are right, there's a 99.99% chance that account that posted that comment is actually Sally. It sounds like it definitely follows the pattern of manipulation she's been using on you. But good call on blocking that one, too. She's really starting to sound like someone else we're all familiar with... a certain he-who-must-not-be-named. Maybe they can go get married. XD

As I mentioned before, she needs professional help. The kind that only a doctor or therapist can give. Not us everyday peeps online. If she's really feeling suicidal in a sincere way (and not just in a "let me grab this person's heartstrings" way), again, she should be calling that suicide hotline for real guidance, not involve you. A person's empathy and compassion should never be used as a weapon against them. That's just downright evil. So whatever comes out of this, never feel guilty or pressured about anything she's trying to do. You've made your message clear, you've told her you want to be left alone, and that you can't help her. That's it. You've closed the book. Now chuck it in a hole and bury it.

Still, in the end, it definitely sounds like she's attempting once again to leverage emotional abuse to gain control over you. Don't fall for it. Quietly block all of her accounts, ignore her messages, and eventually it will stop. No one enjoys talking to silence for long. Every now and then, she may try another go at it, but continue with the silence and the account blocks.

And yeah, here's to hoping this is the last you have to deal with this and this quickly gets buried. I once had to deal with something similar to this and I'm happy to say it's been quite a few years since the issue resurfaced. I'm hoping you get to enjoy that peace of mind sooner than later.

**Scytherwolf** · 11-30-2018, 01:43 AM

Originally Posted by Neo Oddish

Don't be freaked out. Take it easy and don't let this get to you, because it would mean Sally's gaining the edge and her schemes are working. You don't want that and it would encourage this same kind of emotionally abusive behavior with you and possibly others if she were to realize it's working.

Continue the account/message blocks on DeviantArt and whatever else she might be contacting you through, but don't respond anymore. You've already made it clear you don't want to be involved with her problems anymore and any kind of response means she's getting through to you and you're listening. You've already tried listening to her, but obviously she didn't listen to you, so don't continue that one-sided exchange. And you and your sister are right, there's a 99.99% chance that account that posted that comment is actually Sally. It sounds like it definitely follows the pattern of manipulation she's been using on you. But good call on blocking that one, too. She's really starting to sound like someone else we're all familiar with... a certain he-who-must-not-be-named. Maybe they can go get married. XD

As I mentioned before, she needs professional help. The kind that only a doctor or therapist can give. Not us everyday peeps online. If she's really feeling suicidal in a sincere way (and not just in a "let me grab this person's heartstrings" way), again, she should be calling that suicide hotline for real guidance, not involve you. A person's empathy and compassion should never be used as a weapon against them. That's just downright evil. So whatever comes out of this, never feel guilty or pressured about anything she's trying to do. You've made your message clear, you've told her you want to be left alone, and that you can't help her. That's it. You've closed the book. Now chuck it in a hole and bury it.

Still, in the end, it definitely sounds like she's attempting once again to leverage emotional abuse to gain control over you. Don't fall for it. Quietly block all of her accounts, ignore her messages, and eventually it will stop. No one enjoys talking to silence for long. Every now and then, she may try another go at it, but continue with the silence and the account blocks.

And yeah, here's to hoping this is the last you have to deal with this and this quickly gets buried. I once had to deal with something similar to this and I'm happy to say it's been quite a few years since the issue resurfaced. I'm hoping you get to enjoy that peace of mind sooner than later.

I'm definitely trying not to. I just got a message from her on tumblr saying that I was being unfair by blocking her and not giving her a chance to explain. I don't want to. I'm DONE with these conversations. She messaged me anonymously on tumblr so I couldn't block her. This kind of scares me though because she obviously thinks I'm in the wrong and being 'unfair' and that she's totally innocent. And knowing her, she'll spread these rumors about me to everyone else.

I'm definitely not going to respond though. The thing that makes the tumblr message so frustrating is that she is never willing to listen to ME when we disagree. I've tried to explain stuff to her and she just ignored me. So this is extra stupid. Haha, maybe they'd get along. XD

Yeah, I mean, it seems like she has a wierd unhealthy fixation on me (and my story). And wants to blame me/it for everything. And yeah, I mean, we don't even know each other all that well. We never did. We were never super close. So all this just baffling to me. But yes, definitely. Good advice.

Yep, so far I've blocked everything of hers that I can. I'm just a little worried about the fact that she thinks I'm doing it for mean/petty reasons ("accusing her" and "not letting her explain") and she might turn others against me. But I know I shouldn't care about that.

I really hope it is. I just don't get why...she keeps contacting me. After I said I don't want to talk to her. And everything I say gets twisted into something horrible. So I'm just not going to say anything more.

But yeah, thanks a lot for replying to this, I was really freaked out yesterday.

**Scytherwolf** · 01-02-2019, 01:00 AM

So one of Sally's friends sends me this:

*Sally* wanted me to stay out of this, but as her friend, I need to say something. Did you know that she had been doing well for a few months and actually showed a decent level of improvement? She told me she wanted to make amends with you and sent an apology email. But then when she tried to offer you advice on DA, you decided to block her. I have never seen her get that depressed that fast before. Was your goal to make her backslide like that? If it was, congratulations. You have succeeded.

Seriously WTF...leave me alone.