The "What do you look like? Thread"

[[Desolate Divine]]

@Noblejanobii Take it from someone who has also suffered from a lot of bullying over the years. Being this negative, especially towards yourself, however much you may tell yourself it is a joke, is toxic. Negativity is like an acid that eats away at you until you can't see anything good any more.

For a year and a half I was pursuing a toxic relationship. At first it was all nice and happy, but slowly and slowly after things weren't working out the way I wanted them to, I started to blame myself little by little, because I couldn't bring myself to blame her. It started off with thoughts and comments about myself like what you have been making. However it got worse and worse, to the point where I hated myself, and when I knew things were never going to happen, I blamed myself for that.

What I am saying is that though it might seem harmless now to say these things, it really does affect you, little by little. The thing that stopped me from falling further and further? Finally being able to stand up and say no. To say it wasn't my fault things didn't work out. Even if I didn't believe it at first, after hanging my mindset, I am in a much better place than ever.

I'm not saying to be stupidly optimistic. I know people who would be smiling at someone who was pointing a gun to their head, and it drives me up the wall. I am saying to give yourself a break.